"Oh, you are too sensitive!"
I have been told my whole life that I was too sensitive.
And when I was told this as a kid I did what a lot of people do--I believed the adults telling me this and tried to be who they thought I should be.
And I started discounting my own inner experience, my own song.
I judged my sensitivity as weakness and something to "fix."
My boundaries went kaput because I thought everyone else knew how to live so I just picked up on all of their feelings about life and tried to claim them as my own.
I associated being kind and loving with giving my whole self away.
Oh man, all this has so backfired on me again and again. And this is such a good thing!
In my deep discomfort I had to learn about the energetic boundary thing.
Energetic boundaries have given me back my own radio station, my body, my life, my heart.
And boundaries have helped me respect other people more and feel that I don't need to fix anyone. Because I don't want to be fixed, I want to be seen for whomever I am at the moment. (I'm still working on this one).
What are energetic boundaries? Simply: the edges between your energy field and another's. Just as an electrical cord is to be grounded and protected, we also are electric and need to be grounded and protected. Otherwise, we pick up on too much and we go all over the place and get overstimulated and confused.
The best boundary is knowing and connecting our center.
In the grounding workshop I am teaching this Sunday, I am going to teach some techniques on creating energetic boundaries and releasing energy--but to just say here: a great way is to go barefoot on the grass! This grounds you by connecting you to mother earth, getting you back in your body, and somehow I can hear my heart when I do this.
I truly believe that our sensitivity is actually to be encouraged because it is our hearts. And we need so much heart right now!
And if any of you are interested in learning about what is means to be a Highly Sensitive Person or an Empath, here are some links some links to quizzes if you like that sort of thing:
Here's to our beautiful sensitivity!
-Lucy Kendrick Smith